Catching Jack

Sex is a mutual activity. We could not force someone to do something that he or she doesn't like.

Isang kaibigan ang bumisita sa bahay last week. Siguro wala ng mapag-usapan kaya napagpasyahan niya na tanungin ang isang ka-housemate. Ang tanong, “ano ang maramdaman mo pag makita mo si toot-toot na nagmamasturbate?” Siguro dahil wala sa mood iyung ka-housemate kaya di niya pinansin ang tanong. Bigla akong sumabad, ako ba ayaw mong tanungin?

Sabi ng bisitang kaibigan, “Ayaw!” “Eh di ayaw.” Sagot ko sa kanya. Ako pa, di ako namimilit ng tao. Hehehe. Kaya ayun, binalingan ulit ang aming housemate. Ngayon, iningles na ang tanong. “How would you feel if you see toot toot masturbating?” Ang sagot ng aming housemate ay, “Seryoso na ako.” “Hala ka, seryoso na. “ Tumatawa na sambit ko. “Ako na lang sabi ang tanungin mo eh.” Sabi ko sa bisitang makulit. Dahil sa naramdamdaman na niya ang bangis ng sagot ng aming housemate. Ipinasa niya sa akin ang tanong.

Wala. Pag makita ko partner ko na nagjajakol, sasabayan ko siya. Sabay tawa. Ibinihagi ng bisitang kaibigan iyung kinuwento sa kanya ng isang kaibigan na nahuli ang boyfriend na nagma-masturbate. Tinanong iyung nahuli na kung di ba siya kuntento sa kanya? Sabi ko, masyado namang madrama iyun. Nagkaroon pa ng mahaba habang inuman, este usapan tungkol sa katanungan hanggat dumating si toooot. Tinanong din namin siya. “Ok lang. Natural lang naman iyun eh. Isa pa, mas alam naman ni left at right kung paano paligayahin ang titi natin.” Buong-buo ang loob na sagot niya habang nakangisi.

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The dilemma is real. Honestly in my case, I still masturbate even my partner is just a touch away. For me, it is very natural. I am a very horny person. This blog is a testimony to that. When I watch porn, I like to jack off. That doesn't mean that my partner lacks the sensitivity for my needs. Rather, it is just that I have an excess of libido. Would I just shake my partner from sleep just because I am horny? Would I just interrupt my partner from what he is doing or about to do just to satisfy me? Doing that is insensitivity and selfishness on my part. Sex is a mutual activity. We could not force someone to do something that he or she doesn't like. Sex is always good if both are on the same level of passion.

Feeling bad or feeling less of a person when you see your partner pleasuring himself is an expression of guilt and insecurity. When confronted with the scene the best way to react is not to over-react. Ranting, nagging, or blaming yourself or your partner would worsen the situation. Think before you act. Ask yourself, “How well do I know my partner?” “What conditions would I think that could bring up the scene?” “Am I justified to react this way?” Asking, “Am I not good for you?” would only cause guilt on your partner. Then he would just become defensive. When a person becomes defensive, there is a tendency to become aggressive. That means, instead of resolving the dilemma, you are actually making it worse.

Was I caught even once jacking off by my partner? Yes. Did I urge him to finish me off? I did not. I just seduce him, and fortunately he gave in.